Yes I love my kids, love to spend time with them, travel with them, laugh and learn with them. I’m that mom.
If I wasn’t, I wouldn’t have chosen this lifestyle for us.
Kind of goes without saying, doesn’t it?
However, the following statements are also true:
I’m that mom who says “Sure! Bike riding in Central Park twice a week would be great!” but then keeps forgetting to haul out and clean the bikes, pump up the tires, adjust the seats…. Until her daughter reminds her that it is now almost August and we have gone bike riding exactly once all summer. On rented bikes.
I’m that mom who hates cooking. I do it, but it does not bring me joy or catharsis. My take out menus are no longer really necessary as I have memorized the phone numbers and menus of all our favorite restaurants. Oh, and once a week we get McDonalds. On purpose. And we call it “fat day”.
I’m that mom who, every now and then, completely loses patience with my kids and yells – usually about something stupid like dishes or laundry. (In my defense, I apologize once sanity has returned.)
I’m that mom who goes to the beach with her kids but forgets to bring water or snacks or on occasion, sunscreen.
I’m that mom who buys organic, eschews hydrogenated oils and high fructose corn syrup and has a homeopathic doctor, but who loves Diet Coke. Who doesn’t care that her kids also love Diet Coke. (And coffee. And Ruffles potato chips. And Fritos.)
I’m that mom who loves going to movies more than going on a hike in the woods.
Are you getting the idea? I’m not that “perfect” mom. Then again, there is no such thing. Anybody who tells you different is lying.
I love my kids. I love talking with them, traveling with them, living and learning with them. I do my best to help them when they need it, provide them opportunities to pursue their interests and expose them to new and fun ideas and experiences whenever possible. Sometimes I don’t do it as well as I should, or even as I could.
That’s ok. Accepting my own imperfections and failures is part of the journey. Celebrating the good and the fun is another.
If you’ve also chosen the unschooling path, be yourself. Do your best. Love your kids. Keep learning. That’s all anyone can ask for and all that your kids need.